Welcoming Lydia Norah Connally

I have eight grandchildren, the first one born in 2010 and the newest one born two-and-a-half weeks ago. With the birth of each child, I’ve written a blog post, and today it’s a pleasure to write about Lydia Norah Connally, born September 28, 2019 in Peru. I haven’t met Lydia yet, only spoken to her on WhatsApp (which is a woefully inadequate way to love a baby). But in December, Rory and I will travel to Peru and have the joy of meeting her in person and holding her.

Lydia Norah Connally

Lydia is the third child in her family. Her parents, Brendan and Erin, are missionaries among the Quechua people of the Andes. Lydia has two older brothers: six-year-old Oliver, and almost-three-year-old Joel. Lydia, like her brothers, will grow up with both Peruvian and US citizenship. She will speak Spanish, English, and some Quechua. She’ll have friends from three or four continents, because she’ll grow up with Peruvians and the children of other missionaries. Lydia is a child of the world and of the Christian gospel.

Top: Lydia. Bottom left: Brendan with Lydia. Bottom right: Oliver with Lydia

She is also the daughter of two very strong, smart and kind parents, and I know that Lydia will spread love and hope, just as they do. I deeply believe that Lydia and her brothers are gifts not only to our family but to a world in need. I watch with pleasure as the goodness of God unfolds in their lives.

Oliver, Joel and Lydia with their loving Quechua nanny, Ana
Erin and Lydia

A Year After Publishing, What Has Changed?

A few months ago I read a blog post by a woman trying to become a professional writer. The post is funny yet communicates the frustration and embarrassment of the not-yet stage. The blogger, Sandra Ebijer, describes how you feel reluctant to tell people what you do (write), because they’ll ask if you’ve been published, paid, etc. It gets old, saying no. When I read the post, I had to nod in recognition. I’ve been there. And I know the feeling . . .  if only I could get published.

A rough, rough draft

But now that my novel is, in fact, published, I’ve also seen the truth of what experienced writers say: publication doesn’t change your life. Some aspects of it will change somewhat, but you are still the same person. My novel  set in Hungary, The Songs We Hide, was published by an independent press a little more than a year ago, and here is what I’ve noticed about what it’s done (or not done) within me:

  • Confidence: I no longer question whether I can pull off writing a difficult novel. I did it, and now I’m writing an even more difficult novel. There’s been little room for my ego in this. Sometimes people say to me, “You must be proud of yourself.” Not especially. I’ve had to correct my own mistakes so often that the word “pride” seems irrelevant. Last night a woman told me she was amazed by people like me who could write a novel. But this woman has run marathons and hiked up Macchu Pichu—in her seventies. Now that’s impressive.
  • Fear: I used to dread the rejection that comes with writing. I hated the self-doubt and the fear that I was spending hundreds and maybe even thousands of hours on a project that would come to nothing. Post-publication, those feelings are still part of me. Fortunately, they aren’t as big a part. Maybe it’s like being a musician that never stops getting nervous but never gives up playing, either. Fear is a fact of the artistic life, but no way is it the whole of it.
  • Expectations: I never expected my writing to “make it big,” and I still don’t. I expected I would have to do a lot of my own marketing, and that has turned out to be very true. So I guess things haven’t been too different from what I expected. Except . . . I didn’t know how much it would mean to me to see readers touched by my book. Or to hear Hungarians thank me for writing it. I didn’t expect such satisfaction to come from my book events, with readers asking perceptive questions, wanting to know more about Hungary, more about the Cold War, more about music, more about my characters, more about the writing process, more about how writing affects the writer. I could not have foreseen how these book talks would become an opportunity for growth and caring. That’s been a great gift, one I didn’t expect.
Laszlo (Laci) Orban, the Hungarian violinist who played at my book launch